You don't actually have to follow these rules


Hi Reader,

A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of chatting with AuDHDer, psychologist, and author Chelsea Luker (@connectuspsychology on Instagram) on my Podcast about her new book Square Me Round World, and many other things!

One of the gems that she shared was her reflections on what she wished she knew as a child:

“I would like to go back to my child self and really say, it's okay.
You don't actually have to follow these rules, there's a different set of rules that might work better for you.”

This is something so big and important that I'm not going to say much else about it! I just want you to read it twice and I invite you to think...

How can we each support the neurodivergent kids in our lives to figure out the 'rules' and parameters of the world that will truly suit them?

How can we support each child (and of course, ourselves too!) to find spaces where we can live happily as ourselves, rather than trying to change to fit in with others' expectations that are just... not aligned for ND brains?

Take care. Wishing you a fabulous week!

Adina Levy

Neurodivergent Speech Therapist & Professional Educator

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🙋🏼‍♀️ Hi! I'm Adina, a neurodivergent Speech Therapist and professional educator from Sydney, Australia. I’m so happy you’re here!

I’m an AuDHDer, meaning I am an autistic ADHDer. My life’s stories and experiences intertwine with my clinical experiences, and the lived experiences and perspectives of other neurodivergent people. These perspectives inform everything that I teach and share.

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